Learning to Love

Hi, my name is Desiree Garza I’m 15 years old and I have been with my boyfriend for 4 months and 3 days today. Last night we was arguing and he told me he doesn’t want to be with me and I don’t understand why but I think I pushed him to much because I kept asking him on the phone if he wants to still be with me and he kept telling me he was tired and it made me feel like if he was avoiding my question and I started getting mad and I told him if you don’t want to be with me then man up and tell me but I think I pushed him to much because then he said what you know, "No, I don’t! Is that what you want to hear?" and then he hung up on me and when I tried calling back he didn’t want to answer so I went to sleep and when I woke up for school I tried to call him but he was already gone but I know where he goes after school should I go over there and talk to him face to face or just let time work its magic? But if I do that I’m worried I might give him too much time and I don’t want to let him go. He is the first boy I have ever been with and I’m not used to this please I need help what do I do? Should I go over there after school? Or should I call him? Or should I wait and see if he calls me? And if he doesn’t how can I let him go? I don’t know what to do help me I’m so confused.

- Desiree Garza/ 406 oakwood ave (?)

# Dear Desiree, it’s good that you seek guidance from us. Things aren’t always on our favor dear. Life goes through a lot of thick and thin. And in love life also we should never anticipate happiness and pleasure only. Our expectations should never be high. Sometimes we fight, sometimes we cheer, sometimes we makeup and sometime breakup. But then again, this is life.  

Well, without much a-do. Let me tell you that nothing is wrong in your relationship. It’s a normal glitch. Depending upon our mood, sometimes we are rough and sometime gentle to our partner. I think asking the same question over and over again irritated him so infuriated him. Don’t worry, just give him some space. Stay calm until he cools down. Then meeting him would be better. I don’t think he’s going to call you soon enough because he seems angry already. So, you have to make the move and apologize for making him angry. Then gradually things should turn to your favor.  

Good Luck ! 


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